Call it concern, care or even possessiveness if fine, but there it makes a big difference with being 'concerned' and being 'judgemental'. Most of the times people say that they are concerned about you but this is what they just say and do not mean. You are always judged by others on your situations and their thinking, for what you do and what they think you must do, for what you really want and what they think you should want...
I have seen there are friends who break up at a certain point in their life because of this problem of giving judgement every time. Specially when it comes to friends, I think, it should just be a listening thing. After all 'listening' is one thing that takes away anger (at least in my case :P). For friends, you can be crazy with them, shout loud when u feel, cry when you are frustrated, abuse to your end limit and then get back to normal. Yes, you can be worst in front of your friend. This is what make the relation special. But here comes the problem when the concern of a friend becomes rules for the other, when they promise they'll understand when your bad but they don't, it is when one gives judgement on every possible thing, other doesn't want that and...break up...!!
When you are a friend to someone, you have to be with them as they are, you can't and shouldn't try to change them, but if they do change, let it be. Its natural, accept it! And now when you start judging, you start irritating. And the funny thing is, you expect that your friend who is frustrated will listen to your judgement and will follow what you suggest!
See, how it is coming up. Its not just a slight difference in pronunciation but a big difference in meaning that changes life. A tip for a healthy and happy relationship "Do accept but do not expect!"
I have seen there are friends who break up at a certain point in their life because of this problem of giving judgement every time. Specially when it comes to friends, I think, it should just be a listening thing. After all 'listening' is one thing that takes away anger (at least in my case :P). For friends, you can be crazy with them, shout loud when u feel, cry when you are frustrated, abuse to your end limit and then get back to normal. Yes, you can be worst in front of your friend. This is what make the relation special. But here comes the problem when the concern of a friend becomes rules for the other, when they promise they'll understand when your bad but they don't, it is when one gives judgement on every possible thing, other doesn't want that and...break up...!!
When you are a friend to someone, you have to be with them as they are, you can't and shouldn't try to change them, but if they do change, let it be. Its natural, accept it! And now when you start judging, you start irritating. And the funny thing is, you expect that your friend who is frustrated will listen to your judgement and will follow what you suggest!
See, how it is coming up. Its not just a slight difference in pronunciation but a big difference in meaning that changes life. A tip for a healthy and happy relationship "Do accept but do not expect!"
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