How different personality people have even when they have same interests and caliber but have so different situations in life.
Everyone says that a self made man is always the one who 'always stands out' than a man who 'always had facilities and opportunities' to become some one who stands out. Compare a successful businessman who is a son of a successful businessman with a successful businessman who is a son of a successful carpenter. The man who will 'stand out' in this case for people will be the son of a carpenter. I find it so unfortunate for the son of a businessman who has to bear this pressure of 'standing out' from others. Of course he had opportunities but i hate this when people start expecting that he will have to pursue what his father does and if he doesn't, he is not worth any respect! (You never know, he could have been the best musician of the country!)
What about a woman? She is respected, oh sorry, that is a rare thing! Let me correct, she is appreciated (rather) when she is pretty even when she is 50 and is an active participant in the society where men gets to talk to her. But than again, this is when she is lucky enough to get a good husband and in-laws who let her work for herself. What would you say about a woman who is still in a conflict about how to bring herself up in society while her husband is busy earning respect for 'himself' and she has no one to share responsibilities than herself? She is still in the cycle of going for the job, coming back home, cooking, taking care of the children... When she tries to help her husband, he scolds that she doesn't know about what he is doing and how his work is done. "Mr. husband, if you'll know how she manages to do all this (managing her job and home), may be then she'll know about 'what are you doing and how your work is done'!" Here I'm not talking about the unlucky middle class women who do not even get the liberty to work but about the unfortunate ladies of so called educated families who get the liberty to work but are still counted unequal to that of their husbands.
This is a real problem of our society that no law would ever be able to change (although I don't want something like that). This inequality is in the mentality and has become the hard core nature of a human being. Be it a man or a woman, both have already decided for themselves; who will cook, who will help children in home work, who will earn money, who will represent the family... And the woman who do not accept this treatment, who are as successful, active and most importantly free as men, are generally single!
I won't say it is solely because of men but women are also responsible for that. But just one help of man in helping children in homework, or cooking on weekends, or making evening tea sometimes, or just a sweet smile saying 'I'll tell you how it works' is all what a woman wants!! I, again, think these small acts can bring a big (optimistic) changes in relationships, can change moments to 'happy moments', can make at least a part of our society better...
And yes, I THINK this way because I have seen this happen!!
Everyone says that a self made man is always the one who 'always stands out' than a man who 'always had facilities and opportunities' to become some one who stands out. Compare a successful businessman who is a son of a successful businessman with a successful businessman who is a son of a successful carpenter. The man who will 'stand out' in this case for people will be the son of a carpenter. I find it so unfortunate for the son of a businessman who has to bear this pressure of 'standing out' from others. Of course he had opportunities but i hate this when people start expecting that he will have to pursue what his father does and if he doesn't, he is not worth any respect! (You never know, he could have been the best musician of the country!)
What about a woman? She is respected, oh sorry, that is a rare thing! Let me correct, she is appreciated (rather) when she is pretty even when she is 50 and is an active participant in the society where men gets to talk to her. But than again, this is when she is lucky enough to get a good husband and in-laws who let her work for herself. What would you say about a woman who is still in a conflict about how to bring herself up in society while her husband is busy earning respect for 'himself' and she has no one to share responsibilities than herself? She is still in the cycle of going for the job, coming back home, cooking, taking care of the children... When she tries to help her husband, he scolds that she doesn't know about what he is doing and how his work is done. "Mr. husband, if you'll know how she manages to do all this (managing her job and home), may be then she'll know about 'what are you doing and how your work is done'!" Here I'm not talking about the unlucky middle class women who do not even get the liberty to work but about the unfortunate ladies of so called educated families who get the liberty to work but are still counted unequal to that of their husbands.
This is a real problem of our society that no law would ever be able to change (although I don't want something like that). This inequality is in the mentality and has become the hard core nature of a human being. Be it a man or a woman, both have already decided for themselves; who will cook, who will help children in home work, who will earn money, who will represent the family... And the woman who do not accept this treatment, who are as successful, active and most importantly free as men, are generally single!
I won't say it is solely because of men but women are also responsible for that. But just one help of man in helping children in homework, or cooking on weekends, or making evening tea sometimes, or just a sweet smile saying 'I'll tell you how it works' is all what a woman wants!! I, again, think these small acts can bring a big (optimistic) changes in relationships, can change moments to 'happy moments', can make at least a part of our society better...
And yes, I THINK this way because I have seen this happen!!
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